Do Not Rush Into Marriage

DO NOT RUSH INTO MARRIAGE

Problems in marriage may arise when a couple enter into that relationship prematurely.   They maybe too young and inexperienced.  Or perhaps they do not take the time to get to know each other - their likes and dislikes, their goals in life, their family background.  It is wise to exercise patience, taking the time to get to know the prospective mate.....

 

Marriage is more than just a romantic relationship. The marital union yokes together two persons from different family backgrounds and with distinct personalities, emotional makeup, and often disparate educational backgrounds.   Sometimes it is a joining of two cultures, even two languages.  At the very least, it brings together two voices with the ability to express differing opinions on all kinds of matters.  Those two voices are a very real component of a marriage union.  They can be constantly critical and complaining, or they can be warmly encouraging and edifying.   Yes, with our words we can either hurt or heal our mate.  Uncontrolled speech can put a real strain on a marriage.

 

Therefore, it is wise to take the time really to get to know a prospective mate.  An experienced Christian sister once said: "when you view a prospective marriage partner, think of perhaps ten basic requirements you would like to see in that person.  If you can find only seven, ask yourself 'Am I willing to overlook the three that are missing? Could I on a daily basis tolerate those deficiencies?' If you have doubts, step back and think again."  Of course, you need to be realistic.  If you want to get married, know that you will never find a perfect mate. But then, the person you eventually marry will not have found a perfect mate either.  Marriage involves sacrifices.